I walk into a room and automatically check out the scene in my head. I first search for the my girls. As I walk to them, my eyes scopes out the room and starts to rate everyone in the room. "She's cute, shes alright. Hmm who is he! And ah his friend alright." Outside, I say hi to everyone, and greet my girls. But inside, I boost myself with confidence, as I compare myself to others. As I socialized, I am abound to be introduce to someone new. And thats when the little diva's voice in my head gets louder.
If I I am introduced to someone who I think is on my level, or had looked at me the wrong way when I came in, is whehn her voice is all I hear. I give her a fakishly hello waiting to see how she will respond. She could either respond what seems as genuinely nice and we could end have a really good first conversation. And if we do I later feel bad because of all the negative thoughts I had about her, and even start complimenting her even more. "Man her hair was really pretty, I wonder where she gets it from, and I really liked her dress. I need to wear more dresses." lol But is she responds dry and brushes me off, then the Diva in my head says "WOW, she a lil rude huh? I was soo nice? I mean what is her problem"
But really Faith, do you even know how you came off to her?
Or, its a Saturday night and with my girls. We are all having a good time until, one of them says something. That the Diva in me can not just lets go. I dont respond outwardly but the Diva in me is fussing up a storm, and sending the friend who said something to me, glaring eyes. How fast a couple of young ladies can reach their climax when someone turns into the antagonist. Yet, how quick one can reach the resolution, if they brush it off, and respond with love.
Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Colossians 4:6 Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
Moreover,some many friendships, and relationship are broken because we take EVERYTHING personally. If someone has a bad day and they just brush you off, the next day you want to do the same thing to them. Because what did you ever do to them for them to treat you that way. If someone blows out on you, you want to hold that grudge and always keep it in mind of what they have done. WHY? Why fight fire with fire. I know so clique but so true. You don't get bigger but instead make the FIRE BIGGER. I know personally, I always had that mentality. When I first meet someone, I see what vibe they give off to me. If its dry, then I think to myself "wow, she's lil rude." Or you feel that they are unapproachable. But maybe boo, its not all about you.
What if they are having problems, and just left from an argument with their parents. What if they just lost their job. Or they had one of those days that EVERYTHING just kept going wrong. So meeting someone new and showing their personality inst on their mind. Your not on their mind. They might not even have registered your name, because they are just so lost in their thoughts. So really its not you. It's not me. So what if your bestfriend just blew up at you. Obviously, this is out of character. Maybe, there is something rooted from her lashing out you. I mean you dont call her your best friend for no reason. It is your job, to find our what happen, then instead be OFFENDED. So, we really need to look above that, and stop reading to much into peoples body language, tone of voice, or facial expressions when you talk to them. But to genuinely have AGAPE love for everyone. Because remember at the end of the day-"It's not always about you boo"
"We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother." 1 John 4:19-21
~Faith
